The Kids Are All Right is a drama that doesn't
manipulate, it is a film full of ideas, but manages to avoid falling into the
easy trap of preaching.
Jules (Julianne Moore) and Nic (Annette
Bening) are a middle-aged lesbian couple in Los Angeles with two teenage
children, Joni (Mia Wasikowska) and Laser (Josh Hutcherson). Nic, a hospital
doctor, is the breadwinner of this stable, well-off family, while the
unfocussed Jules has vague plans to start a landscaping business funded by her
more financially sound other half. As the film opens, Joni, under pressure from
her younger brother and behind their mothers’ backs, calls up the sperm-bank
that provided their mothers with genetic material eighteen years earlier.
Through this, the siblings manage make
contact with their hitherto unknown biological dad, Paul (Mark Ruffalo), a
hedonistic restaurateur who's flattered by the attention but quite unsure how
to proceed. (I’ve no idea how this works in America, but it seems ridiculously
and ludicrously easy for her to trace her anonymous father from a mere mobile
phone call). Gradually, Paul is incorporated into the fringes of the family:
The children bring him home for an excruciatingly awkward lunch, and against
Nic's wishes, Jules takes on the job of landscaping his garden.
It's fitting that gardening—Jules'
landscaping project, Paul's achingly trendy farm-to-table restaurant—plays such
a large role in The Kids Are All Right, because the film itself is at heart
about the ecosystem of a family, and the way that system changes when an exotic
species is introduced. The presence of Paul completely changes the whole
dynamic, exposing flaws and weaknesses in Nic and Jules' relationship and
forcing the children to defy their mothers and reassess their peer friendships.
(A subplot in which the introverted Laser finally stands up to his moronic pal
is particularly well-handled.)
Without ever making the comparison
outright, Cholodenko and her co-writer Stuart Blumberg draw a parallel between
the aspiration for organic purity and the myth of the perfect family. However
meticulously you cultivate your garden, they suggest, there's no predicting
what might crop up by surprise or how it will grow.
The Kids Are All Right’s story hinges
entirely on how the characters treat one other. The acting here is really
interacting, and this ensemble cast just about manages to get it right. Bening
makes Nic a force to be reckoned with: an acid-tongued workaholic who loves her
wine more than she should but who's such lively company you can understand what
Jules sees in her. A scene in which Nic sings Joni Mitchell's "All I
Want" acappella at a dinner party veers from cringing embarrassment to
heroics and then straight back to 'total pure beamer' territory.
The constantly brilliant Julianne Moore
finds lots of layers in Jules: passive-aggression, vulnerability, vanity and
sexual hunger. Ruffalo gives a well-played laidback turn as an immature but
well-meaning sexy rascal. And as the kids who aren't always, but eventually
will be, apparently, all right, Wasikowska and Hutcherson are tentative and
tender and convincingly sibling-like. More than anything, this is a film about
marriage. Not about gay marriage in particular, though the portrait of this
couple's decades-long bond underscores the absurdity of the debate about what
to call same-sex unions. Cholodenko, who has a donor child with her partner,
isn't making a commercial for alternative families—in fact, some gay
cinemagoers may bristle at the film’s less-than-orthodox take on lesbian
sexuality and the complications of donor parenthood. What Cholodenko has aimed
for, and achieved, is something bigger: a serious and funny film about the
simple yet incomprehensibly fraught act of moving through time into middle age
with the person you love.